Like many mums to be, you may be having questions about sex whilst pregnant such as what is normal and safe for you and the unborn. Most couples avoid sex during this time partly due to the cultural tendencies not to associate pregnant mothers with sexuality and because of insufficient information. So, can you have sex while pregnant? Is it safe? Will it be as good as usual? The article answers the questions that you might have.
Can You Have Sex?
If you lead a healthy pregnancy you can make love during the early stages. There is absolutely no reason why you should alter your sexual life as there is no medical evidence linking sex during pregnancy to any damage. If you have a history of miscarriages or you are encountering problems during pregnancy such as a bleeding placenta, you are advised to talk to your gynaecologist first. You may be advised to avoid intercourse during late stages of pregnancy.
Can it Hurt the Unborn?
Penetration won’t hurt the baby even if the partner is on top of you. The uterus is enclosed with a thick mucus plug that prevents the risk of infection. Amniotic fluid and the powerful muscles of the uterus also protects the unborn. Orgasm contractions are different from labour contractions. So, there is no risk. The unborn may, however, move a little bit after orgasm not because it is aware of the ongoings but due to increased pulse rate.
What is Normal?
Sexual desires change during pregnancy which is perfectly healthy and okay. Now that your hormones are changing and you have fuller breasts, you may experience an increased sex drive. Blood flowing to the pelvic area may cause engorgement of the pelvic area and cause an increased sensation. But to others, this bottleneck may leave an unpleasant lump sensation after sex.To some women, sexual desire will remain the same or become less during pregnancy.
You may have less sexual desires during the first trimester because of overly self-consciousness of the changing body and due to the fact that you feel more tired and nauseated than ever before. The second trimester is often marked by a resurgence of libido. Your desire may fade away during the third quarter: you start thinking about childbirth or you don’t really feel that you are any more attractive. This is quite normal.
What Will Your Partner take it?
Most men find their partners very attractive during pregnancy. Your spouse’s desires may be marred by concerns about your health and that of the unborn, fear that sex will hurt the fetus or moral restraint to make love in the presence of the unborn. Good communication is the key to maintaining intimacy during pregnancy. Be open with your feelings and encourage your partner to share his, particularly if you notice a change in responsiveness.
Will Oral Sex be Safe?
Sex during pregnancy could also be risky when you are expecting multiples or triplets, when you cervix has opened too early, when amniotic fluid is leaking or when your placenta lies too low. In such instances, you may try oral sex (if you are okay with it) since neither you nor the unborn will be at risk.
How Can You Have Sex Comfortably?
Changing positions may be imperative for your comfort when having sex while pregnant. You might consider using water-based lubricants during the intercourse. If you feel any pain or irregular contractions, consult your doctor immediately. No penetration should take place in case your vagina bleeds heavily or when the water breaks. Make sure you are promptly seeking medical concern in such instances.
When making love during pregnancy, side position may be effective. Making love while your partner is above you will require more than imagination with your swollen belly. But if you lie on your side, your partner will not weigh on your uterus. While lying on your side, spoon position will feel comfortable and allow for shallow penetration. Deeper penetration may become impossible as months progress.
You can also use the bed for support. Your belly won’t interfere if you lie on your back against the edge of the bed or the foot, with your butt and feet on the mattress. Your partner then stands on the floor or kneels in front facing you. The after pregnancy is not easy to cross. Not with the fatigues, sleepless nights, drop in hormones et.c.
Love contact can indeed help couples survive this period easily and welcome the child in best emotional condition. However, make sure you are communicating feelings with your partner. The essence of intimacy is open communication and understanding each other’s feelings.